Thursday, December 2, 2010

An Adoption Worry

I just read a great book called China Ghosts about a father's journey to adoption.  It was written by Jeff Gammage.  One part illustrated one of my big worries about our upcoming adoption.  Here is what Gammage feels that adoption brochures really should say:

"Don't think you're going to walk into an over-crowded orphanage, take one child out, leave ninety-nine behind, and be the same person when you sit down to breakfast the next morning.  You won't be.  It's too cruel a lottery.  And your participation in it will mark you.

From now on, wherever you may go and whatever you may do, the faces of the children left behind will come to you, unbidden, glimpsed in the eyes of a child scampering across the street in front of a crossing guard and in the smile of a girl skipping rope on a playground.

...you think you're bringing home one little girl.  Only later do you realize that a host of specters has moved in.  You think you are tying your fate to the life of a single child.  You find out that you have been inextricably bound to the lives of dozens of others.  And that there is little you can offer those children besides prayers."

I can't imagine how great the day will be when I get to meet my child.  I also can't imagine how horrible it will be when I must walk away from all the other children there.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I understand the heartache you will experience. I just can't imagine all those that are left behind. What is so great is the life you are going to love and take in as one of your own. You all will be changed forever.That is the miracle that you can all take joy in. You can be a witness to others and those that are called can help some of those others.

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